Self Care Habits That Will Make You Happier and Healthier
The Importance of Healthy Habits
Creating healthy habits is the only way to set yourself up for success. Daily habits that create a smooth rhythm for our lives starts with a choice, to be better and do better. It is essential to our lives, like oxygen to make healthy habit choices so we can continuously grow and live a flourishing life.
You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.
―John C. Maxwell
I know from personal experience that changing the way I did things on the daily, even simple things such as reading a book before bedtime, no phone after 8 PM or reading books with my kids before bedtime has changed our lives dramatically. The main thing I have gained from changing my daily habits was a great sense of patience for my kids. I have learned to be patient with myself and in turn with others.
There are a few misconceptions with self care and personal development as a mom, you can find more information on that in my post The Beginners Guide to Personal Development as a Stay at Home Mom.
Why Do We Not Practice Self Care?
My old self would have answered this question by saying simply because we are mothers. There is no time. But from my personal growth I have found the time, in fact I have made the time. I started say “this isn’t a priority” vs “I don’t have time” which really meant “I’m no a priority,” and that it was ok to neglect myself. In reality, that is not true and if we start saying it this way, we will see that self care is essential for stay at home mothers.
1.) Waking Up Early
This may seem counter intuitive considering moms need to make up so much sleep. However making a routine where you are able to go to bed early, or at least as close to the same time as your kids will allow you to wake up before them and do all the things you want to do for yourself without interruptions. Even as I write this post at 3:12 AM on a Tuesday, I realize the importance of waking up early and doing what I want to do because it gives me life.
I typically wake up at 5:00 AM and get about three hours to workout, give myself a facial, read, pray, meditate and then work on my blog, but for some reason the baby decided to stay up from 1:00 AM to 2:00 AM, so I was already fully awake and already knew that if I went back to sleep to wake up at 5:00 AM it just wouldn’t happen, so I made a choice, to do my three hour routine now, until about 5:00 AM or 6:00 AM and then take a little nap before everyone wakes up. I knew making this hard choice to workout and work on things I wanted to work on now would stop me from having to make an even tougher decision at 5:00 AM when I would most likely feel sleep deprived from having to wake up so much with the baby.
I love waking up early because this is my true alone time. In the quite of the home. I am able to truly focus on reading the Bible and praying, meditating and completing my posts without interruption of an idea or thought. It feels amazing to be able to complete a task in full without having to stop and lose track of where I am at. I feels amazing to do the things I want to, and even better to know that at 8 AM when everyone is up, I’ve already accomplished so much for the day. But this also means going to bed early, I’ll teach you how in the next few tips.
2.) Create A Routine
Creating a routine can set you up for success. When I first started trying to get up at 5:00 AM, it almost never worked because I would stay up later than I should have, or I would be doing things the night before that I didn’t need to be doing, so I just want prepared for the early morning to come. But once I came up with a nightly routine, and stuck to it, everything changed. I knew what to do and when to do it. This allowed me the space and time to accomplish the things I wanted to.
This included, giving myself facials every night, Meditating, working out, praying, having time to get ready for the day without constant interruptions. (If interested in seeing my exact schedule in detail comment below.) This leads me to my next tip, setting yourself up for success.
3.) 15-Minute Speed Clean
I often find myself in insomnia because I haven’t done the dishes, or picked up the toys in the living room, or finished clearing the table… but once I started this 15-minute speed cleaning routine it changed the way I go to sleep and wake up. Let me explain.
I usually get the kids in bed by 7:00 PM (this took a lot of work to get toddlers on a routine and sticking to it, it was more parent training than children training, if you’d like to get more information or see a post on this, let me know in a comment below) I immediately set a timer for 15 minutes, to do some speed cleaning. I set a timer or else I’ll spend all night cleaning instead of doing what needs to be done. And yes, cleaning needs to be done, but I have a set schedule in place to tidy up during the day, so if the place is too messy at the end of the day it just reminds me to work harder the next day to stick to my schedule. These 15 minutes allow me to pick up any left over toys thrown around last minute, load the dishwasher with any cups or dishes left around the home, or to just sweep and pick up the bathroom from bath time.
Doing this allows me to go to sleep worry free. It allows me to fall asleep faster, knowing I did what needed to be done, but I also didn’t over work myself with things that can be finished tomorrow and I am sure not losing sleep over one cup I forgot to load into the washer before getting cozy in bed. These 15 minutes also allow you to wake up the next morning stress free, knowing that you don’t have a million things to already clean up and the day hasn’t even started yet. I implore you to try out this 15- minute speed clean of your home, you have no idea how much you can really get done in 15 minutes!
4.) Social Media Break
A major factor in setting myself up for a good night’s rest and waking up happy is no social media one hour before bed time and no social media for about three hours after I wake up. After I speed clean I’ll check my social media accounts and then plug my phone in to charge and no more phone for the night. All my alarms have already been set and are automatic in place for the next morning. Also notice how I said check, I simply get on my apps and check any notifications that may be important for the next day, such as play date cancellations, or new playdates for the net day, I don’t start scrolling and engaging in conversation because that is a slippery slope to wasted time for self care and sleep.
The next morning I do not check social media until well after I’ve gotten up, done everything on my schedule and have had breakfast. I know that I am not missing out on anything important at 5 AM, 6 AM or even 7 AM, so after the kids are up and fed, I can log on, and be happy with checking what is going on for the day, and join in any conversations for about 30 minutes and then get back on with my routine.
Did you know that being on social media can ruin your well deserved sleep? Check out this article by Elite Daily on impacts social media has on your sleep.
7.) Read Self-Help or Development Books.
8.) Get Outside
It is hard for us to get out of the house that sometimes we end up staying inside for a few days at a time. “Mommy Cabin Fever” is real! This is why I take my girls and baby for a awl every single day. We go about 1 PM, right after lunch, this also helps them to get all their energy out for the day, but also get’s them tired for bed time that is soon approaching.
Getting outdoors can shift your mindset and help you feel better before you are even burned out. This also helps your hormone balance, and as stay at home moms especially those of us who have just had a baby, our hormones are all over the place. To find out more information on who taking a leisurely walk benefits us all over, check out this video.
9.) Positive Affirmations
Mind is everything. What we think about, we become.
We rise b lifting others up.
-Robert G. Ingersoll
The Last Thing You Need to Know about Self Care Habits as a Stay at Home Mom
Remember that habits take time and practice to perfect. Start with one or two you know you can implement into your real life daily schedule. See how it changes your attitude, old and life. Share your experience below in the comments. If you’d like you can also join our private Facebook Support and Accountability Group for more support and advice.
Love & Light,
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